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Showing Questions in 'Marriage Law/Philosophy'

Question No.	1761
Category	Marriage Law/Philosophy
Date Posted	6 Jul 2010
The Question	Is it proper for one spouse to force the other spouse, a baal teshuva, to comply with all the halachic requirements of niddah? —Anonymous, New York
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Question No.	1758
Category	Marriage Law/Philosophy
Date Posted	1 Jul 2010
The Question	If a man and a woman are not married yet but the woman goes to the mikveh at the proper times are they allowed to touch b'derech chiba? —Anonymous, USA
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Question No.	1755
Category	Marriage Law/Philosophy
Date Posted	28 Jun 2010
The Question	Can a woman who is on birth control pills use them to prevent a period? Would this go against any halachos? Thank you —Anonymous, Lakewood, NJ
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Question No.	1752
Category	Marriage Law/Philosophy
Date Posted	23 Jun 2010
The Question	If one's grandmother was previously married before she married ones grandfather (who was somewhat orthodox) and your not sure if she received a get from her first husband what is one's status regarding mamzerus? what is the best way to fix the situation and can one assume she received a get? Thank You —Anonymous, America
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Question No.	1751
Category	Marriage Law/Philosophy
Date Posted	23 Jun 2010
The Question	My husband and my mother don't get along very well, for some reason my mum has said that she feels like she cannot be close to me as long as I am married to my husband. My husband is Jewish, and he is religious. My mother thinks that he has brain washed me to follow his religion. Recently there was a big problem between me and my husband and he said to me that for his honor sake I should not contact her at least for 6 months. He also thinks that my mother is dangerous for his family. Should I honor my husband and do what he asked me to do or should I disobey? What the Judaism teaches? —Sabet, Helsinki
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Question No.	1737
Category	Marriage Law/Philosophy
Date Posted	7 Jun 2010
The Question	Is it Muttar to use a sexual aid otherwise called a sex toy to increase pleasure for ones female spouse during intercourse. No problems of Hotzoas Zera or the like are a problem. —Anonymous, Manchester
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Question No.	1728
Category	Marriage Law/Philosophy
Date Posted	3 Jun 2010
The Question	Shalom, is Mizvah of "Shomer Neghiah" not necessary if engagement could be done much time before mariage? Thanks and Bye! —Anonymous, Genoa, Italy
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Question No.	1713
Category	Marriage Law/Philosophy
Date Posted	12 Feb 2010
The Question	Rav Leff, thank you very much for answering out questions. With reference to question #1686, I simply don't understand-why is it that once a Jewish couple has fulfilled pru urevu, from what it sounded like from your answer, they have to be pretty much at the edge of emotional and financial breakdown in order to get a heter to use birth control-if they've already fulfilled the mitzvah, from a halachic perspective, why would they need a heter in the first place? —chana, NYC
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Question No.	1711
Category	Marriage Law/Philosophy
Date Posted	12 Feb 2010
The Question	L'Kavod HaRav. What are the Rav's thoughts on a couple limiting the number of children they have because of financial considerations? Specifically, let's take the case where the couple has 3 children (2 boys and a girl) and the family can not afford a fourth yeshiva tuition. —Anonymous, USA
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Question No.	1683
Category	Marriage Law/Philosophy
Date Posted	14 Sep 2009
The Question	Is it true that a women that is divorced and has a Get, can not marry a Kohein or vise-versa? —fbrowd7707, Margate, FL
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Question No.	1638
Category	Marriage Law/Philosophy
Date Posted	17 Mar 2009
The Question	B'Kavod HaRav, A rebbe in chinuch wants to relocate as his current school has lost money and they are laying him off. His wife does not want to relocate and move two years in a row ending up in a place where she does not know anybody. He would have to leave chinuch and find a new job. What is the appropriate direction to take? —Anonymous, USA
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Question No.	1623
Category	Marriage Law/Philosophy
Date Posted	4 Mar 2009
The Question	If a person was married without city hall (civil marrige) and only had ktuba. The person who conducted the Jewish ceremony without city hall certificate wasn't licensed himself, but advertised himself in a magazine that he does things like bris mila, chupa, etc. So the couple lived together for a year and a half, but ktuba was stolen from kallah about 30-40 days after the marriage. She now has a 3-year-old daugther. There is no proof of marrige, the witnesses of the ceremony were the mashgiyach from the restaurant and the chatan's brother-in-law (both shomer Shabbat). There is no official recording of the wedding ceremony and no ketuba. Does she need a get? —Tamar, Brooklyn, NY
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Question No.	1612
Category	Marriage Law/Philosophy
Date Posted	7 Feb 2009
The Question	B"H Shalom Rabbi! In base of Halachah (Aschkenaz), after the Chuppa and the Ychud, is it an obligation to dress the Kissui Rosh during the Party of Marriage? Thanks! —Mordechay Hirsch ben David, Italy
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Question No.	1569
Category	Marriage Law/Philosophy
Date Posted	7 Dec 2008
The Question	With all due respect to the Rav, I was extremely surprised by the answer you gave regarding showing affection to one's spouse in front of children. The Rav said it is even positive to show affection. I have never, ever, in any chareidi community seen this, even the kind of affection the Rav mentions. As far as I know, in a chareidi community they wouldn't even touch, hand over objects, etc., even when they may. —Anonymous, London, England
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Question No.	1549
Category	Marriage Law/Philosophy
Date Posted	18 Nov 2008
The Question	Why did Avraham Ovenu send Eliezer to find a shidduch for Yitzchak Ovenu? Don't we have a rule that it is better to do the mitzvah yourself rather than through a shaliach? Also, it seems that the custom then was you had to pay a lot to get a good kallah. Today it is the chasan (or his father) that demand the apartment etc. I heard that one prominent rabbinical family asks for 2 apartments from the kallah's family - one to live in and the other to bring in income. Where is "honouring parents" if the children press them to take on debts they cannot bear to buy them apartments? What is the "kosher" Jewish approach? —Shimon Frais, Beit Shemesh
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Question No.	1545
Category	Marriage Law/Philosophy
Date Posted	16 Nov 2008
The Question	Dear Rav Leff, Is it ok to pay a shadchan with a gift rather than with actual money? Thank you. —Anonymous, NY
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Question No.	1529
Category	Marriage Law/Philosophy
Date Posted	30 Oct 2008
The Question	Should affection such as hugging and kissing be avoided in front of the parents' own children? What if avoiding these causes unhappiness to the wife? —Anonymous, United States
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Question No.	1528
Category	Marriage Law/Philosophy
Date Posted	9 Sep 2008
The Question	As a baal tshuvah for 20 plus yrs now, how do I cope with my wife's unwillingness to make a total commitment to Torah Judaism? She agrees to "modern orthodoxy" (prviously 0% commitment), ex: having TVs, not covering her hair except for Shabbos etc, modern orthodox education for children. As a 50+ year old, it is painful to know precious time for our children especially (17, 12 & 3) are slipping away. The pain is although I know the right direction I am unable to traverse that direction for the family out of fear of the "unthinkable" thus I compromise? Thus the family (including myself) are dragged down by "compromising" our Judaism & "total" commitment towards hashem. —Anonymous, Brooklyn, NY
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Question No.	1512
Category	Marriage Law/Philosophy
Date Posted	23 Aug 2008
The Question	Likvod Harav: May a Cohen marry the daughter of a convert? Does it make a difference whether it's the girl's mother or father that converted? Thank you. —Anonymous, Baltimore, MD
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Question No.	1492
Category	Marriage Law/Philosophy
Date Posted	23 Jun 2008
The Question	My two first children, daughters, were born BEFORE my then husband (we are since divorced) converted Orthodox. Since their father was not Jewish when they were born, are they forbidden from marrying Cohanim? Their father converted when they were 6 and 3 years old. —Anonymous, Israel
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